Love in the truest sense requires that we relinquish self interest in favor of the well being of another. Ironically though, by giving up on the pursuit of what seems best for us we actually experience what is best for us. This is the essential message of the age old truism, it is better to give than to receive. Human logic says that giving is an act which diminishes me because by giving I lose what is given. Physically that may be so, but spiritually the physical loss is trivialized by the gain in personal happiness and ultimate fulfillment. As humans made in God's image, we are called to love for our own benefit as much as for that of others.